There is a very nice quote from Steve Jobs which says that
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice.”
I always found this little quote by him reassuring of the fact that I am living my life in an absolutely true way. I always did things which my instincts guided me towards which certainly does not mean that I lived an awesome life, even though I did. Let me explain-
I think I am known as someone who is stubborn in her own ways just like how you are and my journey till this point of my life has taken me through tremendous highs and lows, not to mention an emotional breakdown like the Great-Depression of USA: long and painful. But at any stage if someone would ask me to go back in time and change a thing then I would end up living the same life all over again. I am truly, one hundred percent happy with all the choices I made as the way I look at it is that I got to learn so much about my own self in the process. Its like pealing an onion, layer by layer, slowly you get to the nicer part and I am loving it.
At times I wonder if I have gotten attached to my miseries more than my highs? Like Elizabeth Gilbert, my favorite person says that “Ruin is a gift, Ruin is a road to transformation.”, I feel I like the transformation stage more than the stagnant learned stage. Its like I thrive for new learning, I thrive to shake myself up and rise as Queen Daenerys. Maybe this is one part of my psyche. But I am proud of myself.
I definitely do not want to sound like conceited but you can term my this blog as ‘self-love’. Did you notice that all the time in our life we want an outer world appreciation to realize our worth but when we sit alone we loathe. We disgust at the choices we made, the people we trusted, the awful day which just passed, our body image etc but we fail at appreciating our bold moves, our one track mind on resolving an issue and our leanings.
I know that when things go wrong then our mind deliberately takes us down that road which lead us to misery but maybe at that time if we also try and look at the lessons we learned and the opportunity we had to pick up on a skill then maybe we would not feel that sorry for our-self.
Lets take a moment and say thanks for our problems. These are the things which leads humans towards mastery or else we all would be standing like ghosts in front of a wall, not knowing what to do and what we have. So people, did you say thanks to your own self today?